Am I judgmental of others in a condemning or hypocritical way?
37 “Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. 38 Give, and it and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.” 39 He also told them this parable: “Can a blind man lead a blind man? Will they not both fall into a pit? 40 A student is not above his teacher, but everyone who is fully trained will be like his teacher. 41 Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your eye? 42 How can you say to your brother, ‘Brother, let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when you yourself fail to see the plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye. - Luke 6:37-42
Unbelievers and “Christians” alike often love to quote this verse, to justify staying in sin. Jesus is NOT telling us to not call sin “sin”, or not to warn others. He is saying don’t be like the Pharisees who would mercilessly judge and condemn people caught in sin (even stoning them), and all while harboring sin in their own hearts. This is horrendous hypocrisy. We are to warn others, if we are living a godly life, and our motive is to see them turn from it, not to simply judge them. If you are in my life and you see me doing something ungodly or unwise, it is not unloving or judgmental for you to point that out to me. If you are correct in your observation and I make the correction, I will be better off in the Lord than I was. It would be unloving of you, not to correct me, unless you are guilty of it too, or living in other sin. Scripture is clear; we are to correct each other (Pro 27:5-6, 1 Cor 15:4, Gal 2:14, Col 1:28, 2 Tim 3:16-17, 4:2, Tit 2:15). However, we should avoid judging disputable matters such as movies, food, worship styles, education, dress, child rearing, etc. Leave those to the Spirit. (Rom 14:1)
One of the most hurtful and best rebukes I have ever had was from an old boss who was an unbeliever. It was in 2004, and I had gone through five bad work “deals” in 18 months trying to earn a living after the gym disaster in 2002. I went to visit him after not seeing him for a few years. After catching up, he said, “Mike, can I share something with you?” I said, “Sure”. He said, “I no longer even read your emails. It seems like every time I turn around you are selling something different. You are starting to remind me of the guy walking around D.C. who comes up to you and opens his coat saying, ‘I’ve got watches, rings, or things, what’ll it be?’ You are ruining your credibility with people Mike. You need to pick one thing and do it better than anyone else.”
I walked away from that meeting with my tail between my legs and my ego badly bruised. However, his courage to correct me turned out to be such a blessing, that to this day I respect him in a special way, and I remain thankful for his example.